I never write on reddit but im curious to know if I am being to sensitive or over reacting about something my husband asked me…
So we have 4 kids, and though I dont necessarily want to have more children, I feel completely offended and hurt that my husband would ask me how I felt about getting my tubes tied .
Let me clarify, we decided to use an I.u.d but it broke in my uterus and I had to remove it . And we were talking about that and he asked if I wanted to have any more children or not . And I said I dont know , why? And he expressed that he was thinking about me getting my tubes tied to prevent further accidental pregnancies.
I felt immediately like I wasn't good enough for him and that he must not want to have more kids with me because he must not love me or perhaps that I am not what he wants in a mother /wife.
Also, only my youngest is his biological child- the other kids have different dads . – I dont know if that matters but now you know. –
I asked if he would get a vasectomy and he said he didn't want to shoot blanks because he feels that would be weird. …
But im extremely confused because why should I go through a major surgery that's very difficult to undo just because he doesn't want to shoot blanks ? Like what would that matter if he doesnt want kids?
Ill add that ii brought up bwing offended and hurt and he was empathetic and understanding and said maybe we can opt for the shot instead. But why is he pressuring me to do even that?