I (29M) have been seeing my gf (28F) for about two years now. I lately have been struggling with self confidence / anxiety due to her life goals. She is in a very high paying career field, and while I am no slouch (165k base), my job is very high pressure, which already causes me great stress. She however talks about this big beautiful "ever expanding lifestyle" and wants to be able to always upgrade her life and never be told she cant afford something or access due to money. I never cared much for expensive things or living a luxury lifestyle. I wanted to work a good job, save, and live modestly.
Now she brings the perspective of saying I should want more for myself and Im supposed to work hard so I can buy nice things and now I cant help but feel I made the wrong career choice or just had the wrong outlook this whole time. Her career allots for much more WLB than mine, I just dont love my job, and she is very career obsessed, which I thought I was too; however, its a whole different level with her.
I am now left feeling like I made the wrong choices in life, trying to figure out if I am wrong or now lazy / not driven? I think maybe if I loved my career more, I could have a different outlook; however, as a financial analyst I cant just randomly cash massive commission checks like she can in med device sales.
She has never made any jabs at my salary or career, she tries to lift me up, but it is just never the right way. Its always about how I am "smart" and should want more out of my life / potential. I cant figure out if I am weak-minded and this should motivate me, or if something is just wrong with me. She is a great girl and I love her dearly, I just dont know if I can handle a high stress job and expectations internally from her, whether she voices them or not, I feel like they will always be there.