Any advice is welcomed but please be respectful as I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and this is a sensitive topic.
I (29F) have been married to a man (32M) for just over a year and been together for 9 years total. Over the course of our relationship, there has been a recurring issue of him not properly controlling his emotions. He has charged at me once a year ago and “accidentally” hit me a few months back though it t was very clearly not an accident. I have tried for years to talk with him about this and he always swears he will work on things but it only ever gets better for a week or two and then he goes right back to being borderline verbally abusive. Additionally, he drinks to excess with his friends and then gets in my face, breaks me down emotionally, etc… every single time.
Fast forward to this October when I had finally had it and wanted to separate due to his excessive alcohol consumption and erratic behavior. I stupidly gave him one more chance (per usual) and told him I would stay if he only had one drink when we went out. He made a mockery of it in front of everyone and laughed as he purposely had a second drink. I went off about it a week later and he was like can we make it two drinks? Stupidly again, I agreed.
Now, I just found out I’m pregnant with a man that I am uncomfortable and miserable around. He‘s still being his usual erratic, immature self and I don’t know what to do because I should have left before we got pregnant but I don’t want to leave and do this all on my own with my first child.
Any advice? Thank you in advance.