Me ‘34M’ and my wife ‘30F’ been together 10 years, met in Florida and began dating when she was 21 and we were both working at the same resort restaurant. From the beginning I always knew she was a little more wild than me. She was in an open relationship, she went to sex parties and did naked yoga. She left her boyfriend at the time for me, and we decided to be serious with each other. The next year I decide to take a job in Arizona and she agreed to go with me. She still had a couple months of school to go, so I moved first and got us an apartment and cars for when she moved. Life was good.
This past year we both went off the deep end and cheated on each other. We both addressed it and worked through it and surprisingly our relationship has never been better.
But then the other night, out of the blue, she tells me how she cheated on me, 2 different times, when I was in Arizona and she was finishing school. I was a little dumbfounded on how to respond, but mainly asked her questions about it. Like what happened, why, … what were you thinking? She ultimately chalks it up to she had needs, it was a long time ago, she has problems, etc. The biggest sticking point for me was she never even apologized or showed any remorse. Even after I told her that really hurts to know, and it really screws with my head to think that’s how we started.
She really doesn’t seem to care…
What is this? What does this mean? Where do I go from here??
TLDR:
Wife told me she cheated years ago and isn’t sorry and shows no remorse.