I am a female in my mid-twenties, and I have never orgasmed during sex with men. Not even from oral, not even with toys and vibrators during it, not even in situations that I find super arousing, even when they were doing it really well. Nothing. And I have no problem doing it by myself. No I don’t watch a lot of porn, and yes this was a problem before I even owned a vibrator, so I don’t think it’s a stimulation issue.
I have only ever orgasmed a handful of times from one partner just touching me with fingers, and even then I had to have the perfect environment and focus.
It’s to the point where I don’t even want to have sex anymore because I know it’s all going to be the same; the stimulation will be nice, but I’ll never finish. I know orgasm is not always the end goal with sex, but when I’ve not even done it ONCE, it’s all I can think about.
I’m even trying to experiment with my sexuality, but I’m nervous to sleep with women because it’ll likely be the same situation only even more embarrassing and frustrating.
I don’t know where to go from here. I have a super high sex drive but it’s not even worth the try anymore. And because I’ve never finished, it makes me all the more nervous when a partner tries to make me. Because I know I won’t so then I just get anxious and in my head.
I have talked to friends about this before IRL but they always just try to blame the man and say they’re not doing enough, but it’s not true. I’ve had partners do everything I’ve asked for hours and still not be able to. There is something mentally blocking me.
Has anyone else experienced this?