Hi all, married for 10 years together 15.
Husband is the best most hands on Dad to our daughter that I could ever ask for and for the most part a fantastic husband. He's loyal, hard working, attentive and a genuine family man who will do anything for us.
The only thing – and it's a big thing – that I would change about him is that he genuinely doesn't seem to understand my feelings amd is dismissive of them if he is in the wrong. It's not that he doesn't care, he's just so laid back and has a 'just get on with it' attitude that he rolls his eyes and pretends like nothing has happened. I eventually get an apology out of him but he phrases it 'I'm sorry of I have upset you' which I know he is only saying to appease me.
I have depression which for the most part is well managed, however in the past when it was bad he once told me that depression is all in the mind and that I need to just 'get on with it' . His family are the same.
I once in an 'argument' (he literally never raises his voice or brings up issues) told him that he has the emotional capacity of a stone which I could tell hurt him – but it felt good to actually see some emotion from him for once!! The only time I have seen real emotion from him is when he lost his Dad, he cried for an hour thrn never mentioned him again.
Is this fixable??? I have tried over and over again to talk to him about it.
Help.