i came in this sub to ask if consuming porn occasionally in a relationship where u r not sexually involved yet considered cheating or not and now i have gotten another question so asking here…
Someone said that waiting to marry to break ur virginity is a bad decision as their r very high chances that u and ur partner can come out sexually incompatible and as we all know sexual incompatibility is one of the major reasons people cheat or withdraw themselves from the relationship (if they dont cheat)….
now, my views on having sex before marriage r pretty much neutral… I can have it before as well and after asw…. if my girl agrees to do it today, i will do it asw 😂
you can say that, i have no clear say on this…
my girlfriend on the other hand wants to wait till marriage or atleast engagement which means minimum 6-8 years given we r in medical line and it takes alot of time to finish the degrees and get settled….
she has admitted to me multiple times that sometimes she feels like doing it and craves it but then remembers her parents in a way that if she does any of this w me, then this would be equivalent to cheating, but on her parents… idk why people associate it that way and i have tried making her feel comfortable about this and their's nothing like cheating on ur parents or family values in this but her stand always remained firm on no sex befote marriage…
she probably thinks somehwere that i will abandon her after doing the deed because that's what happens generally but im not that type of guy… im the one who will get even more attached if i do it…
this is her 2nd relationship and we have done everything except blowjobs and sex…(this was necessary for ya'll to help me)
i dont talk about wanting to have sex much w her because i think then she will think of me as other dudes who just want her for her body and when im clearly not one of them, i dont want my image to be like that…
till today, i was pretty much okay with delaying sex for next 7-8 years but some comments i read today really made me ponder if im doing it right..
i dont want to lose her but i personally think 8 years more without sex would be too much… maybe in future she agrees to do it in a year or 2 or in heat of the moment but right now, she has suppressed her desire to do it…
what can be done?