Just found out my wife of 11 years has been having an online affair. I have been fighting back my intuitions for the past 4 months, telling myself that it was me being insecure. I asked her about it on news years eve, she denied. The next day I started snooping, and found evidence on her iPad. It’s all hurtful, but the worst one was that she recorded one of our kinky sex sessions without my knowledge to send to whatever person. Idk what to call it but that one alone has me feeling so violated, like she allowed this person to convince her that my consent didn’t matter.