So me and my boyfriend have been together now for almost 3 years and our families/lives are very different. He is very very close with his family and he sees them all the time. I, however, don’t see mine as often but I still love them and there are no issues.
However, I’m quite worried about our future because of this. His mum consistently talks down on his dad’s side of the family, she doesn’t like anyone on his half. My boyfriend and his close family only ever see his mums side of the family (like 24/7) they see grandparents nearly every other day and live like 5 doors down from them, and see cousins etc. every other week. My family is nothing like this. I’m worried that in our future, my family will be the ones singled out and mine and my partners kids will only ever see my boyfriend’s parents.
Of course, this isn’t an issue as at the end of the day it’s both of our families colliding into one, but I do just feel like the same thing will happen to us in the future. They also have dinner at their grandparents (his mums side) house once a week every week without fail. I’m also worried that this will keep as a tradition and we will do this once a week with his parents, leaving no time to see mine. I understand and want balance, but I feel that because he spends so much time with only one side of his family, he’d wanna carry this on or he’s closer with his family so he would put them first forever.
Hopefully this all makes sense I tried explaining it as best as possible, I’m just not really too sure what to do! I can’t tell him that I feel this way, because he would think it’s an attack on his family. How do I deal with this?