So recently my wife (45F) got some new underwear that can be dried on low, but she prefers them not to be. She told me (40M) about this, and she's been putting them into washing bags so they're easy to see and remove from a load of wash to hang dry, with the rest of the load going to the dryer (always on low). That's all fine.
I did several loads of laundry last week. I was the only one to do laundry. One day, I removed the mesh bags with underwear and put them on a drying rack. Then on a later day I did the same thing. But on that day I also transferred the ones that had dried on the rack to a laundry basket that had clean clothes from the dryer. That made room on the rack for the next batch to dry. I'm not 100% positive as it has been a hectic week, but I'm fairly sure I didn't dry any of them because I counted the few mesh bags when they went in the wash.
Fast forward to tonight. This is how one of our conversations went:
Her: "So I found some underwear and an open mesh bag in a basket. It must have opened up and they got dried."
Me: "I'm pretty sure I had them on the rack and dried them there before putting them in the basket."
Her: "But you're going to be more careful next time, right?"
Me: "I don't think I dried any of them."
Her: "But did you carefully go through all of the clothes as you were putting them in the dryer and not just tossing piles of clothes in?"
Note that I usually don't go through every article….that's the purpose of the large, white mesh bags that I count at the beginning of the process.
There was a little more to the conversation but generally I withdrew because I didn't think it was worth starting a fight over.
So…what's the deal? These little conversations like this seem to happen often when I'm the one who is doing a particular chore. And I do a lot of chores around the house. For reference, I have a full time job and do many chores, a lot of cooking, and always taking over occupying our daughter at times when I'm not at work, then doing bedtime. My wife is a SAHM who claims that our daughter (4F) doesn't let her get anything done during the day. Then once I'm off of work and taking over the other duties and chores, she's relaxing and reading a book more often than not.