23F , i’ve had approximately 6 bfs and around 20 flings my entire life and have never once found someone with even similar kinks as mine. Half of the time i’m too scared to tell guys what i’m into and when i do they just say, “i’m not doing that,” or “that’s weird.” I’ve only ever met one guy that would actually participate but it was a huge turn off when i could tell that he wasn’t actually into it.
I don’t know how kinky people are finding other kinky people or where they’re finding them, but i wanna know.