I have been married to my wife well over 2 years and the moment we got our first house together she drastically changed. We discussed how everything would be 50/50. Team work. But that was not the case. My wife for the last almost two years refuses to hold down a job. Expects me to carry all of the weight financially. Our mortgage is $2,000 a month and I only bring in so much. I continue to pay for the mortgage, pay for groceries and other bills along with my car payment which is almost $600 monthly. I got so behind on my car payment to the point I almost got it taken away from me because I have no help with our mortgage. She can't hold down a job and when she does it lasts less than 3 weeks. She helps when she is able to but it's not by much. Majority of her checks go for gifts and to spoil our child. Not once offer to even throw $100 to $200 towards the mortgage so I am not so stressed out. Don't get me wrong their is nothing wrong with spoiling your kids here and there but to choose that than rather help us keep a roof over our heads tells me otherwise. I work a lot and always come home to a trashed house. My wife gets on my case about how I don't "clean" or do my part. She is home 24/7 and I am always coming home to a trashed house. Dishes everywhere, clothes thrown on floors etc. When she did have a job for short term I would come home from work and immediately work on the kitchen and our home so she wouldn't have to come home to a mess. But when she is not working and I'm working and coming home stressed and exhausted I get told I don't help enough. I am not allowed to speak on how I feel, I feel I am constantly walking on eggshells, I can't be myself, I feel controlled and treated as if I am her child when I am supposed to be her partner. At this point I feel trapped. She has a habit of putting words in my mouth and always posting blame on me. Nothing is ever her fault. It has gotten to the point I am even afraid to speak. I am in so much debt over the last two years because everything is put on me. I am overlooked in ways I cannot explain. I feel I am not good enough, I feel my kindness and the heart I have has and is being taken advantage of, I feel I cry almost every other day. I didn't sign up for this. I came into this marriage thinking it was going to be 50/50 as we both discussed. It's understandable to be supportive of your partner and pick up slack once in a while..but to have it all pinned against me does not sit right with me at all. It's sad it has to come down to me writing on here but I am at a loss for words and don't know what to do anymore. I feel so alone, nothing is reciprocated..it's all put on me and I don't know how much more of this life I can take. She is a great woman but for her to treat me so poorly knowing how much I do and go above and beyond for her is just unacceptable. I need advice on what to do. Is this all in my head? I don't think it is.