Hey everyone, I’ve been having a hard time coming to terms with this and could really use some perspective. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. At the beginning of our relationship, we were very sexually active, which helped me feel close and connected to him. When I became pregnant, our sex life naturally slowed down, which I understood.
Our baby is now 7 months old, and we haven’t been intimate for about a month. Lately, it’s been weighing on me because I don’t know if the issue is me or if he just doesn’t have a desire for sex right now. I’ve talked to him about how I feel, and he told me he understands why it’s upsetting, but that his body just doesn’t feel capable of wanting sex. He says he still finds me attractive, but for some reason when he starts to touch me, the desire disappears, and he doesn’t know why.
He doesn’t fully understand why this affects me so much and feels like all I want is sex, which hurts because that isn’t true. For me, sex is about feeling emotionally connected to him. I love him deeply and enjoy intimacy with him because it brings us closer. I’m trying to understand where he’s coming from, but it’s hard not to internalize it and feel unattractive or unwanted.
I truly enjoy just spending time with him and being close in any way, but the lack of reassurance or clarity about why he doesn’t want to be intimate is starting to affect how I feel about myself. I don’t know how to navigate supporting him while also protecting my own emotional well-being?