I'm 26M, haven't had a long term partner. I dated twice at 21 and 25, things didn't work out.
How do I deal with sexual urges?
1) Hookups feel shallow to me. I cannot random get physical with someone until i know them deeply on an emotional level.
2) Stopped consuming porn because it's quick dopamine and it messes with your brain.
3) I cannot do casual relationships , I get attached easily. I have hard time letting go.
4) Masturbation has becoming boring.
I know the only solution is to find a long term partner, But once I start seeing someone I put in a lot of efforts and will fall in love. I'm scared of getting my heartbroken because of someone's lack of clarity or careless.
Sexual urges need to be dealt with ! Basically the title.
Thanks for responding in advance.
Edit – PS, I'm not gay. I'm straight.