My partner and i have been together for nearly 6 years. We love each other and have amazing sex. We are very sexually compatible and communicate a lot. But
During our time together i have yet to cum from oral sex (even though i am enjoying what he is doing). We use toys during penetration and the usually gets me off 8/10 times.. and he is really good at keeping the same pace so i can cum.
We have tried toys, fingering, oral and a combination of things.. but i think i have a mental block. I have tried not to focus on "the goal" and just enjoy what he is doing, because it does feel nice. He is getting better and better and sometimes i even feel very very close…but never cum.
He has made me cum with a toy before but its been some time and it hasnt happened since.. which might be why i am stressing. He really wants to and puts in the work but.. it doesnt happen.
I also think i am a bit ashamed that he can't even though i am very satisfied. I just heard two of my friends (f23 & f25) talk about they always cum during forplay and specifically oral… And i Don't.
What can we do differently?