What do you ladies think about when your partner gets hit on? Do you find it as a compliment or not and why?
January 3, 2026
What do you ladies think about when your partner gets hit on? Do you find it as a compliment or not and why?
28 comments
I’m too jealous for that lol
Complement for sure! However seeing how he wears a wedding ring now and women still hit on him its made me have alot less respect for women these days
I see it as a compliment that makes me hold him a little tighter 😅😂
If it’s someone attractive I get hyped for him and he does the same for me. That type of stuff doesn’t bother us at all. We point out other attractive people to each other too. I know that’s weird to a lot of people but it works for us.
Overtly in front of me? My hackles get worked up a bit. But he’s cool with his responses. Shy flirting I’m a bit more wary of cause he’s sometimes blind to those things.
Good for him.
There’s not a jealous bone in my body about relationships most of the time, I think I’d care more about my partner’s reaction than the fact they’re getting hit on though.
Don’t bother telling me. It’s useless information in my brain. What’s the actual point of those comments? Does your partner want you to be jealous? I ain’t got time for that.
He wouldn’t really notice he’s very aloof
compliment because yes, he is handsome! but it’s always about the delivery. bc some girls will be overly flirty and i’m like right there.
I don’t think I’d care for it. Depending on what exactly transpires I might find it disrespectful? I guess it really depends.
Sometimes I think women flirt with men who are taken because it feels safer. I also think sometimes that friendly conversation can be misconstrued.
For me there was always a line. At the bar I would stand back and watch women hit on my guy – he was a beautiful man… but new he was going home with me. Although I do remember going shopping with him once and watched this sale lady use every excuse to touch him. That did make the hair on the back of my neck stand up… grrrr.
Now if a person chooses to actually pursue someone who is taken and knows they are taken, shows very little character. Have no respect for people who pursue someone who is in a relationship. Whether the person they are pursuing is in a bad relationship or not…wait till they are free.
Compliment and I usually sit back and watch it unfold because a real man won’t act on it and it’s totally fine to make subtle conversations to let her down gently instead of being a jerk about it. After all, im right next to him lol.
I don’t mind, it’s fun to watch as well (he works at a bar) and he is completely clueless when he gets hit on. It’s adorable
I love it! He’s beautiful, so not surprised when he is hit on.
I LOVE IT. It’s a huge turn on for me. And, it makes him feel great, which brings out the best in him. I like it so much, I encourage my friends to flirt with him and for him to flirt with them. Everyone wins!
It’s usually a compliment, but my partner is a friendly teddy bear of a dude, and sometimes attracts women who are insecure and scared of men otherwise, so we’ve had some weird ones. Neither of us wear wedding rings due to work, so I don’t judge if someone hits on him.
We’re non-monogamous, so there’s usually a quick non-verbal check between us where we check if the person being flirted with is gonna see where it goes or let it go. If the former, the other party winks and goes to circulate. If the latter, then we let it drop.
I know he’s good stuff, and I do feel all warm and fuzzy when someone else realizes it.
lol it’s funny because it’s only happened with him. And essentially I would sort of internally flip out immediately and then 2 seconds later go “oh wow that was intense, what was that about?” And share it with him. He’d laugh and think it’s cute. He likes it a lot that I get jealous for him
I don’t see it as a compliment mostly because I don’t care if other people “approve” of my life (choices). Maybe I care if it annoys me?
Thankfully, my partners didn’t seem to need the ego boost.
I know my wife looks good, so I get it.
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I take it as a compliment. The man is fine so I honestly can’t blame them. I trust him to shut it down if he notices so I’m not worried.
A little pride, a little jealousy, and a little “yeah, obviously, look at him.”
As long as he doesn’t cross the line: compliment.
If he does… it’s no longer flirting, it’s an audition for drama. 😌
It all boils down to boundaries and trust for me. I don’t really see it as an issue if my partner handles it politely and communicates their position. Occasionally, people will flirt. The way your partner reacts is more important than the attention itself.
I take it as a compliment and validation. I know she likes it, even though she is often times clueless when a guy is checking her out. We were out to a dinner in DC, and one of the security detail (secret service) was flirting with my fiancé when I was with a few politicians; no big deal, he should have had his eyes elsewhere and not on her, but I cannot blame him. He was about 20 years younger too. He was respectful.
I wouldn’t consider it a compliment. I feel neutral about it.
They are not (directly) complimenting me… it’s like taking credit or having pride in yourself for your best friend (woman) being smart and/or beautiful. That’s weird… I’ll be happy for them and proud of them, but it’s not a compliment to me.
Plus I know my SO is hot, amazing, and a catch,.. I don’t need other women hitting on him to reaffirm that to me lol🤨
Can’t help what someone else does, but I’d be furious if my husband didn’t tell her to f off. I don’t put up with anyone’s nonsense and would immediately put someone in their place and he respects me and wouldn’t engage.
Love it because he’s going home with me and once he realizes what’s going on he puts his arm around me and makes it known I’m the only girl he has eyes for 😍
28 comments
I’m too jealous for that lol
Complement for sure! However seeing how he wears a wedding ring now and women still hit on him its made me have alot less respect for women these days
I see it as a compliment that makes me hold him a little tighter 😅😂
If it’s someone attractive I get hyped for him and he does the same for me. That type of stuff doesn’t bother us at all. We point out other attractive people to each other too. I know that’s weird to a lot of people but it works for us.
Overtly in front of me? My hackles get worked up a bit. But he’s cool with his responses. Shy flirting I’m a bit more wary of cause he’s sometimes blind to those things.
Good for him.
There’s not a jealous bone in my body about relationships most of the time, I think I’d care more about my partner’s reaction than the fact they’re getting hit on though.
Don’t bother telling me. It’s useless information in my brain. What’s the actual point of those comments? Does your partner want you to be jealous? I ain’t got time for that.
He wouldn’t really notice he’s very aloof
compliment because yes, he is handsome! but it’s always about the delivery. bc some girls will be overly flirty and i’m like right there.
I don’t think I’d care for it. Depending on what exactly transpires I might find it disrespectful? I guess it really depends.
Sometimes I think women flirt with men who are taken because it feels safer. I also think sometimes that friendly conversation can be misconstrued.
For me there was always a line. At the bar I would stand back and watch women hit on my guy – he was a beautiful man… but new he was going home with me. Although I do remember going shopping with him once and watched this sale lady use every excuse to touch him. That did make the hair on the back of my neck stand up… grrrr.
Now if a person chooses to actually pursue someone who is taken and knows they are taken, shows very little character. Have no respect for people who pursue someone who is in a relationship. Whether the person they are pursuing is in a bad relationship or not…wait till they are free.
Compliment and I usually sit back and watch it unfold because a real man won’t act on it and it’s totally fine to make subtle conversations to let her down gently instead of being a jerk about it. After all, im right next to him lol.
I don’t mind, it’s fun to watch as well (he works at a bar) and he is completely clueless when he gets hit on. It’s adorable
I love it! He’s beautiful, so not surprised when he is hit on.
I LOVE IT. It’s a huge turn on for me. And, it makes him feel great, which brings out the best in him. I like it so much, I encourage my friends to flirt with him and for him to flirt with them. Everyone wins!
It’s usually a compliment, but my partner is a friendly teddy bear of a dude, and sometimes attracts women who are insecure and scared of men otherwise, so we’ve had some weird ones. Neither of us wear wedding rings due to work, so I don’t judge if someone hits on him.
We’re non-monogamous, so there’s usually a quick non-verbal check between us where we check if the person being flirted with is gonna see where it goes or let it go. If the former, the other party winks and goes to circulate. If the latter, then we let it drop.
I know he’s good stuff, and I do feel all warm and fuzzy when someone else realizes it.
lol it’s funny because it’s only happened with him. And essentially I would sort of internally flip out immediately and then 2 seconds later go “oh wow that was intense, what was that about?” And share it with him. He’d laugh and think it’s cute. He likes it a lot that I get jealous for him
I don’t see it as a compliment mostly because I don’t care if other people “approve” of my life (choices). Maybe I care if it annoys me?
Thankfully, my partners didn’t seem to need the ego boost.
I know my wife looks good, so I get it.
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I take it as a compliment. The man is fine so I honestly can’t blame them. I trust him to shut it down if he notices so I’m not worried.
A little pride, a little jealousy, and a little “yeah, obviously, look at him.”
As long as he doesn’t cross the line: compliment.
If he does… it’s no longer flirting, it’s an audition for drama. 😌
It all boils down to boundaries and trust for me. I don’t really see it as an issue if my partner handles it politely and communicates their position. Occasionally, people will flirt. The way your partner reacts is more important than the attention itself.
I take it as a compliment and validation. I know she likes it, even though she is often times clueless when a guy is checking her out. We were out to a dinner in DC, and one of the security detail (secret service) was flirting with my fiancé when I was with a few politicians; no big deal, he should have had his eyes elsewhere and not on her, but I cannot blame him. He was about 20 years younger too. He was respectful.
I wouldn’t consider it a compliment. I feel neutral about it.
They are not (directly) complimenting me… it’s like taking credit or having pride in yourself for your best friend (woman) being smart and/or beautiful. That’s weird… I’ll be happy for them and proud of them, but it’s not a compliment to me.
Plus I know my SO is hot, amazing, and a catch,.. I don’t need other women hitting on him to reaffirm that to me lol🤨
Can’t help what someone else does, but I’d be furious if my husband didn’t tell her to f off. I don’t put up with anyone’s nonsense and would immediately put someone in their place and he respects me and wouldn’t engage.
Love it because he’s going home with me and once he realizes what’s going on he puts his arm around me and makes it known I’m the only girl he has eyes for 😍