F 37 M 33
We got married after dating for four years. He is younger than me, and even during the relationship we always had issues—not big ones like cheating, but constant small issues. For many people these might seem minor, but for me, being sensitive and having a history of depression, they deeply affect my mental health.
Before marriage, I took almost two months to tell him that I didn’t think this would work. He begged me to marry him and promised that he would take care of me and be mindful of my triggers. But after marriage, nothing changed. The arguments continued, and he still doesn’t validate my feelings. That hurts me the most and completely breaks me.
I have repeatedly told him that these fights damage my mental health and that I want a divorce, but he refuses to let go. He says he loves me—he hugs me, kisses me—but I don’t feel cared for anymore. I feel taken for granted. I wanted a partner who could help heal me, or at least support me in my healing, but instead I feel like my mental health has worsened because of him.
Ten days before our wedding, I was laid off from my job. Since then, due to constant stress and fights, I haven’t been able to work. I’ve been unemployed for two years, my mental health has declined, and I even took antidepressants for a while. I’ve left his house multiple times to stay with my mother, sometimes for a month, but he apologizes, convinces me to come back, and the same cycle repeats.
Recently, I stayed at a friend’s place for new year, i was literally dy**ing there, he was messaging my friends asking where I was though. But i feel its always for the records because if he wanted he kbow there are only 2 places i can be my mothers or my friends he could have come finding if he really wanted to apologise I feel trapped. He manipulates me and i get manipulated He doesn’t treat me with care, yet he won’t let me go. He let me burn always
I lost my father and brothers and now i think i dont have a husband too i have only my mother I feel extremely alone. I cry every day, like I’ve lost someone. Nothing makes me happy anymore. The one person I trusted the most is not there for me when I need him the most