My bf and me have been together for 4 years and it’s going really well!! The only this is that he is addicted to weed and alcohol (vaping too). We met when we were 15/16 so at that time it was normal to party a lot and all that, but as time passed it became more of a problem for him.
Weed has always been a problem; he tried to stop a few times, did it for a few months or less, but went back into it. I was always there for him in those moments because it was hard for him.
In the last year, it got really bad, alcohol started to be a problem too. The worst is that i wasn’t aware, i didn’t see it. It got so bad that he got a really bad car accident (he didnt hurt himself or anybody, luckily). That really was the worst of the worst for him and for me. He hit rock bottom. And that was my worst fear coming true; he could have easily killed himself or killed someone in that accident. After that situation, he stoped drinking, and eventually stopped smoking weed too, he got better!!
But recently he started smoking again. He isn’t drinking though. I just don’t know what to do to be there for him, or help him. And im just so scared that he started drinking again (even if he tells me no) and another bad thing happen.
So, i am asking advice to anyone who’s in a similar situation on what to do, how to be there? Also, besides that, our relationship is the best, and i love him very much, he is the best to me: so breaking up is not an option at the moment.