I’m in my early twenties and have been with my partner for two years. I love him deeply, but I’ve been feeling very sad and disconnected from myself for the past few months. Since our last conversation about having children, I’ve been crying almost every night and struggling with uncertainty.
I know that I want children someday. My partner is unsure and leans more toward not wanting them, mainly due to fear, attachment issues, and sleep problems. He has asked for more time to think about it and says it’s too early to make a final decision. While he has done some research, he doesn’t bring up the topic, and I’m afraid to initiate the conversation because I don’t want him to feel pressured.
The uncertainty is becoming very difficult for me. I feel like I’m pretending to be happy while carrying a lot of sadness alone. I also don’t know how this situation affects him emotionally, as he rarely talks about his feelings.
I’m torn between giving him more time and taking care of my own emotional well-being. I’m afraid of waiting for years and still ending up with the same answer, but I’m also afraid of leaving and later regretting it if he changes his mind in the future.
I’m looking for advice on how to communicate about this topic in a healthy way:
– How can I talk about my feelings and needs without making him feel pressured?
– How do couples navigate big life decisions like children when one partner is unsure?
– How do you cope with long-term uncertainty in a relationship?
Any perspective or advice would be appreciated.