I need the truth! The brutal honest truth from a man’s perspective.
My husband and I have been together for 18 years. A lot of our younger teenage years he cheated on me multiple times. I was used to the chaos because of my childhood… so I blindly put up with a lot and stayed. Fast forward, we now have 4 children together.
Over a year ago I found out about him going to a strip club, and attempting to get an escort that same night. Only reason she didn’t show was because he wouldn’t pay a deposit on cashapp.
Just found out early December he went to a strip club and got a lap dance. $200 lap dance. (These are the only incidents that I know of. I am fully aware that there was probably more.)
So this is my question I guess…. Yes as I type this out, I see how completely toxic our relationship is. I know all of this and I’m aware. I guess it would just be nice to have it from a man’s perspective. When I found out about the lap dance, he tried to turn it around on me and make me the one at fault any way he can. Ever since then we have been very distant. He has never once tried to talk to me, or use any energy towards me and our relationship. It’s always been the norm for me to get tired of the cold shoulder and reach out to him and resolve whatever issue even though he caused it.
Please tell me like it is. This isn’t love, is it?