So I’ve known this person for 6 years and we’re the closest you can possibly be to family if that makes sense. She has told me that other than her grandma, (she was raised by her grandma) that she trusts me more than anyone in her life. So we have that kind of relationship where I would trust her with my life and she would trust me with hers.
Well anyways, we’ve always been on good terms despite her having bipolar until recently where she started ghosting me for months and then writing a genuine apology on regretting her actions and then doing it again. I can tell when she does it because her whole vibe switches up. She changes her pfp to a provocative pfp, her vibe is dark and negative, but after time she comes back and her vibe is back to normal but this issue occurs a couple times a year and lasts a couple weeks to a month.
Well she started ghosting me start of December and I immediately picked up she was in an episode, so I give her distance and then I text her “merry Christmas” for Christmas, she ignores that message as well. So the whole reason I was writing this was because I was wondering if this is a good message to send for new years (she’s still in the episode as we speak”
Happy new years, I just wanted to say that I appreciate you, and I’ve never said this before but I know there will be times when you don’t feel like being social, so I’m here whenever you need me. Even though I don’t quite understand what you go through, I won’t take it personally/run away, and I’ll give you all the time/space you need. Anyways I’m grateful for the person you are, be well.
So yeah I’m wondering if I should send that or just give her space and not talk to her
TL:DR: I (M, age 18) have known her (F, age 18) for 6 years and we’re extremely close basically chosen family. She has bipolar and a recurring pattern of ghosting during episodes, then later apologizing and returning to normal. She’s currently been ghosting me since early December and ignored my Christmas message. I’m trying to figure out the healthiest way to support her during these episodes whether sending a short, supportive New Year’s message that doesn’t expect a response is appropriate, or if giving complete space is better