I have recently started trying anal sex with a few partners as the penetrative role but I keep running into an issue with both men and women in (I'm bi and a top) where I can't seem to successfully get my penis into their anus. Its like I fail to locate it during sex and just miss it altogether. Even worse is when I go limp trying to find the hole for insertion through just feeling around with my rod.
I have bad eyesight and can't really see that far during sex either.
Has anyone else had this issue perhaps when they were newer to anal sex or from having bad eyesight? It's ruined sex for me with some people because they wanted anal sex and I could only do vaginal or just not have sex if male.