Married 4 years, together 8. It feels like he has no patience for me and my family (parents, sibling) he’s unengaged, rude for no reason, not overtly mean but underhanded comments towards me, especially in front of my family. He’s addicted to weed and lies to me about it over and over. When I “catch” him (I realize how awful it sounds to talk about your spouse like they’re a teenager sneaking around) he seemingly gets mad at me?? Like he mopes around and is short with me, instead of.. uhh I don’t know taking accountability and doing something about it??? The lack of patience and attitude seems to get worse when he’s smoking and lying and lying and smoking. I know that’s no a coincidence. It feels like he’s not willing to stop smoking for me.
I’m at a loss. I’ve tried everything I can think to try. Now it’s Christmas Eve, we’re in separate rooms of our house. I’m feel miserable because he was in a mood and rude at my parents house tonight. I’m trying to “fake” it and move through the motions of the next couple of days for the sake of our young son. He knows something is wrong so he’s getting deeper into his bad mood.