Hi! I (23F) need help with my boyfriend (22M) who becomes pretty contrarian when he is upset about something. We’ve been together 3 years. Whenever he is frustrated or upset by something/a situation in his life and is venting/ranting to me about it, no matter what I say or respond with, he says “it’s not even that”, disagrees, or something along those lines. Like the ENTIRE conversation goes that way. He vents, I respond, he disagrees with what I say and vents more. He literally disagrees with EVERYTHING I could possibly say to try to help or sympathize with his situation. It’s honestly frustrating but I truly just want to help make him feel better!!!
How do I best support him in these times? Does he need advice or just to be listened to? If he just needs to be heard, what are the best ways I can truly make him feel seen in these moments? Nothing seems to help him
TLDR: my boyfriend rejects or disagrees with all of my support/solutions to his problems and I don’t know how to support him