In May of 2025 I got married to my now husband.In August of this year he relocated to California from Pennsylvania to live with me and my children full time.Prior to being married I was a single mom of 5.(Two sets of twins ages 11 & 4,one 10 year old).My husband has a 5 year old that lives with his bio mom full time.When he first moved in,I took on the responsibility of my husband’s bills until he received his first paycheck.He started a full time
job in October.My salary is significantly higher so I continue to pay all of my monthly household expenses as I normally would.Between rent for a large 4 bedroom home ,utilities and food for such a large family my monthly expenses usually average $7,000/month not including childcare expenses and my personal vehicle.At what point is it appropriate to ask for him to chip in?I’m not expecting him to single handedly support me and my kids however,as an adult who’s living under the same roof it seems fair that he contributes in some fashion.I’ve been quiet and asked for no financial assistance as he does assist me with watching my children and bringing them to school.I’m trying to give him some time to get on his feet now that I’ve asked him to assume responsibility for his personal finances again.My question is when is it appropriate to suggest that he helps out financially?Does it make sense to ask that we split household expenses 50/50 or is that asking too much?