I had sex for the first time two days ago and again yesterday with the same person, it was very nice but when it ended I wanted to cuddle with him and fall asleep but said he said he doesn't wanna cuddle, I thought he might me tired so I let it go but yesterday I asked him to cuddle again and he said he doesn't like cuddling and he would much rather do "round 2" so I asked him what does want to do for aftercare he said he would much rather avoid it but I feel like aftercare is very important for me after sex since it makes me feel emotionally secure.
Am I being unreasonable or is aftercare a common thing?