Hi I’m new here to Reddit, didn’t know there’s so many specific rules with posting lol, and don’t know where to really talk about this because I think this is kind of embarrassing.
TL;DR: I’m afraid of getting cheated on, but there are no signs of cheating
So I am dating this one guy and he’s the sweetest guy ever. We met on a friend making app and ever since we met life for both of us have been better because we have each other. He treats me well and right, he cares for me, he doesn’t treat me or say anything bad to me, he prefers to spend time with me than others, when we’re not busy we FaceTime and text every single day for basically the whole day (even though we hardly are busy and even if we are busy we still do lol), compliments/sweet talks me so much, we have basically every single thing in common, we communicate very well to each other, we care for each other, he’s not afraid to be his weird funny self and neither am I, pet names :3, when we’re not calling/he’s at work or something one of us would text a little “I miss you,” and we constantly talk about how much we want to see each other in person and how much we want to just cuddle and kiss. He says I make him the happiest guy ever, and honestly he’s made me the happiest person in the whole world. There’s so much more I just can’t cover. Also I should say that we’re in a “long” distance relationship. He doesn’t have his N yet but when he does get it sometime in January and when he feels more comfortable with driving he said he’ll visit and we get to finally see each other in person (something we both say we want almost every single day lol). I will say I never thought I’d be doing something like online dating before, but with him it feels so comfortable and so easy.
Now here’s where I’m scared. I’m afraid of him cheating, literally just because this relationship is so incredibly nice and its just the fear of I don’t want to lose this and I don’t want to get hurt like this again. We’ve both talked about past family issues and relationships issues and we have our fair history with getting cheated on. He’s afraid of me cheating and I’m honestly afraid of getting cheated on as well. Like this isn’t an unhealthy “we talk about cheating everyday and mention it a lot.” We talked about it once. I will say, reading and watching Smosh Reddit stories are kinda making the whole “is he cheating on me” getting to my head more (my own fault). I know that when you date someone, you only see the red flags after breaking up, this is not the situation. He doesn’t show any signs of cheating, and literally nothing bad has happened between us. He doesn’t treat me badly at all. But people say that even the most nicest partner who treats you great and you guys have no problems can do still do it.
Yeah, so this is much situation and what’s been going through my head. You think it’s worth really bringing this up with him? We’re not
afraid to bring up things with each other, but is this really worth bringing up in general? I really dont feel like he would cheat on me, I honestly highly doubt it, but there’s always that little thing in the back of my head saying he could. If not now, maybe in the future