tl:dr my boyfriend and i have been dating for two years and this is some of my notes about him, hes a sweet boy and i do love him despite everything.
please comment if theres any saving this relationship it would really help
- he gets hundreds of dollars every week, i get only $50 (as neither of us have jobs and he is on the benefit) and still gifts no bday present/christmas presents despite me always either buying him things or making him crafts
- knows my favourite flower and still hasnt bought me any (he still believes its one particular flower because i originally said that so he would at least get me any kind of flowers at all. key point to mention: i have my favourite flowers literally tattooed on me)
- hardly adjusted his budget for buying drugs
- still no doctors appointment or therapy after i have previously gave him an ultimatum
- failed all of his university exams/classes
- hasnt bothered getting a learners license
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wont even try to interact with my family so its hard for them to include him in anything
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we havent had sex in 9months
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said he prefers blowys over having sex w me
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“i was thinking abt doing… etc” constantly
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has very few future plans but absolutely no motivation to do anything about it them
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no social relationships together because he goes quiet in groups and makes me take care of him, but then he makes me feel bad for going out with my friends by myself
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too antisocial to make new non-stoner friends and makes me feel bad for him when i make my own
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cries whenever i try to communicate about serious flaws in our relationship
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no dates/flowers/gifts
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does loud baby talk literally everywhere (in front of of family, on the bus, etc.)
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when he bumps into me only the slightest bit he goes “oh my love” over and over and it makes me feel gross
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he borrowed my new boxers for a few hours after we went swimming at the beach and there were skid marks all through them and i had to throw them out
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says he’ll be social but then sits with his friends the whole time (like im forcing him to come and he doesnt want to meet people)
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together we are unproductive and limiting our shared experiences together because he refuses to go outside
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sometimes have to clean up/find stuff in plain sight for him (socks, shirts, boxers)
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i cleaned his face for him and showed him what basic hair products are for because he didnt know how to do anything himself
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doesnt want to change his friend group and make new friends/try new things
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he spends roughly $200 a week on weed alone, which is almost all of the weekly allowance he gets, leading to me spending whatever little money i have to go on dates that i have to plan myself