our relationship was great for 1.5 years. we had a great time. we’re both military and i had to go away and do a tour for 1 year in a foreign country. we spoke everyday. things were great to start and we were confident we could make it through it. then the arguing started. i’m to be put at blame for most of it. i was trying to set boundaries in the relationship bc it changed through long distance. we both were on different work schedules and time zones. i went to visit her and there were arguements on the trip. she would get overstimulated and start tripping on me bc we’re running late to a movie or to a dinner reservation. i tried to calm her down but when she’s like that she just needs a min.
the day i flew back in to my home base, she calls me and tells me her power went out. there were no hotels available (we both checked and called places) so she had a coworkers place she could stay at. i was cool with it. the house was 4 guys splitting rent and she was the only girl at the time but i didn’t see her with another option. so i couldn’t really trip abt it. but then she proceeded to tell me that one of the guys left for work in the morning and so she slept i his bed. it bothered me bc she could’ve just stayed on the couch but wtv. i talked to some friends abt it and i wanted to talk to her abt it a couple days after it happened. i told her that i wasn’t comfortable with what happened and that she should’ve just stayed on the couch. she then proceeded to flip out and tell me i wasn’t understanding of her situation and tell me she was unhappy with our relationship recently.
i asked her if we needed to take a break from talking for a while.(not a break from the relationship) she tells me she doesn’t do breaks so i told her we’re done then. she continues to want contact but only in a friends way. i don’t want to be her friend and asked her if she wanted to retry but she says she can’t decide rn. btw she has since then gone to that house like 3 times. i want her back but im not willing to be her friend. what should i do?
TL;DR: me and my gf of 2 years started arguing when we got long distance. i want to get back together with her but she only wants to be friends at this moment. what do i do?