I have a best mate who I’ve known for a decade. Always looked after himself- we knew eachother from the military so it was a given that we weren’t scruffs.
He bought a house a while back and I recently stayed with him. I absolutely appreciated his hospitality, however I struggled to make drinks or food as most of the cups/mugs/cutlery etc. hadn’t been washed properly. I’ve never known him to be like this, and it’s his mrs that does the washing up (she’s part time so does more housework), but throughout the week I had to really look to find the ‘least dirty’ thing in the cupboards/drawers.
Do I bring this up with him? I don’t want him to feel embarrassed, but I also don’t want other people noticing the same things and him becoming ‘that’ household that you don’t eat or drink at. If so, how?
If it makes a difference, they handwash with one of those things you put the liquid into the handle then wash with. And when I say dirty I mean you can feel grime on things and sometimes leftover stains. I’ve thought about buying them some decent sponges then gift them to them whilst having a polite word, but I also can’t help but feel it comes across patronising.
Cheers