I (35f) have been engaged to my fiance(38m) for over a year now, dated for a year. Now I feel like I missed huge red flags while we were dating. He is too clingy, he always was but since I love him and was constantly stressed due to work and other issues, I always felt his demands to see and be with me every minute was not really a problem. Ever since we got engaged, it has become unbearable for me, lately I realized I have been emotionally blackmailed to play by his demands. Everyday I text or talk to him just fearing the drama he may create. I am in constant alert mode and just doing whatever he wants. I can’t continue like this, every minute, every hour, he keeps asking for reassurances and gets upset if I don’t tell him the things he wants to hear. He wants me to live like he is my entire world. I am really scared. He wants me to be around his family all the time and gets upset if I said no. A little distraction in being attentive, I have to suffer and needs to listen endless lecture. How do I tell him it is better to take a step back than getting into marriage and suffering. Most importantly I don’t know if I love this person or I am just scared to think if I have feelings for him, because just the thought of sitting him down and talking about these issues giving me endless nightmares. I definitely know he is not the person who would listen and understand. We were originally thinking to get married next year, but I feel like I should take a step back and give it more time. How do I approach this without hurting him or myself ? I am okay being single, I dated only one guy my whole life before him, and that ended 6 years ago. I just want to be single for the rest of my life if this is not going to end well.