My bf (23M) and I (24f) has been together for over a year, and he's a great guy. There is nothing 'wrong' about our relationship really.
The problem is we are both so busy. He works 9am to 1-2am everyday monday to friday then additional work in the weekends. I work a standard 9-5 but my free time is often spent on studying for qualification, gym, reading, and networking/applying to jobs etc. All our minds is essentially 100% on careers. My friends has been saying I'm too low maintenance that he rarely plans dates and stuff. But the reality is, even if he plans dinner and dates, I'd really don't want to "waste" a day not studying or doing something contributing to my career/personal development. If I plan something nice, I know that he probably wants the day to studying outside of his job or just sleep (because he's so sleep deprived). Our weekend is usually just us sitting together each doing our own stuff and eat together (which I think is ok? altho I feel like my friends are in a much more loving relationship when they do other stuff tgt).
I'm not sure if I know him well enough as a life partner (altho I know we are both very ambitious people which is good)?
How do we date if we are both so busy?
…Should I actually not date at all because I'm sure I don't want kids?