Today during Christmas myside family got together to celebrate Christmas. During this time my brother and sister and there spouse meet at my fathers house where we get together to cook and celebrate with the kids. During this gathering my wife made a scene where she was distant made it evident that she didn't not want to be around anyone and pretty must just carried a negative vibe all day. It was so bad that my father came over and ask was she ok. I explained she tried. Some background my wife has stated that she is tired from watching our toddler on a full-time bases while also teaching part time as an professor. So total of 2 class each semester with each class averaging no more than 7 students per class. To try and help with some of the tiredness I have stepped up with cooking and cleaning. I rush home from work everyday to give her breaks and try to relieve as much stress that she could possibly be under. I also wake up early with our toddler on the weekends to allow wife time to sleep in late on the weekend. One time we had a nanny that would come over during the week while I was at work just to give my wife a break. However recently the nanny schedule had to change due to family care issue with her mother. So the normal days during the week that she would watch our toddler would change due to her mothers doctors appointments. This frustrated my wife to the point that she stop calling the nanny to watch our toddler. I tried talking to my wife about working out a week to week schedule based off the nanny schedule but my wife said it was to much. Here the key my wife work schedule is very flexible she teaches online asynchronous courses. So I suggest instead of hiring the nanny to come during the time she would like to grade just call and schedule days for her just to get out of the house to go do something for herself, if that just to go drive, go have coffee or to even go get afternoon lunch without our toddler asking for food. She still refused. I've suggest taking time to herself like get away with friends or even just go rent a hotel room and pamper herself. There always push back. She stated I'm a mother I just can't do that. Today event made me angry however I'm trying see things from her prospective but to be honest it just making me more upset. Because all the validating of her feelings but still no solution is starting to bother me. I don't want to over react but I want to give her a piece of my mind and ask why she just didn't excuse herself today and just stay home.