My husband tries to flirt or be affectionate with me occasionally. The problem is that he isn’t willing to make an effort to be emotionally open and intimate with me. I have real trust issues with him, I basically don’t trust him at all to let him close physically. This is after many rejections and mini traumas I experienced over yrs because of his self pitying immature behavior. Without getting into long details, I honestly feel like I’m falling out of love now. He asked to dance with me(at home) today, and I flat out rejected him. Dancing with him used to be one of my favorite things to do with him and now my body doesn’t even want to get close to him. I’ve never rejected him before like that but I feel like I’m standing up for myself against his teenage behavior and mind games. He’s 40 btw, and I’m 43. Without respect there can be no trust, without trust there can be no emotionally intimacy, and without emotional intimacy I don’t really want any physical contact anymore. He wants the cake again(me) without putting in the work to repair trust and earn it back. I’ve been really looking into self awareness and I can see how I’ve changed over the yrs- I have a disorganized/anxious attachment with BPD traits and he’s pretty avoidant. He hasn’t been reaching out to me with any self awareness and I feel like he’s emotionally stuck at this point. Anyway, I just don’t feel sorry for him much anymore. Has anyone dealt with a spouse like this?