I could use some advice. I’m 19M, and I’ve been hanging out with this girl recently. We’re both virgins. The other night, things escalated and she wanted to have sex. We’d been making out for about an hour, and I was rock hard the whole time. As things progressed, I gave her oral, but when it came time to actually have sex, I wasn’t hard anymore and couldn’t get hard no matter what either of us tried. I ended up just continuing to give her oral until she finished.
I wasn’t nervous and I was enjoying myself, so I don’t think it was performance anxiety. I’ve also noticed that I don’t always get fully hard when I masturbate, which is confusing. I don’t think it’s a testosterone issue I recently had it checked and it was 807 ng/dL. I’ve also never been a very horny person and rarely think about sex.
I’m a little concerned because she definitely wants to do it again, and I really want to as well, but I don’t know if things will be different next time. If anyone has been through something similar or has advice, I’d really appreciate it. I like this girl a lot and want to figure this out.