Apologies for the book
I (32M) have been struggling with Delayed Ejaculation for most of my sex life. I was a late bloomer and had very little sex due to a conservative background. I got out of a toxic relationship and found myself addicted to porn. I was in poor health and started gaining weight which had disastrous effects on my self esteem. After intervention from friends and family I started to turn my life around.
Fast forward to today. I'm in a loving relationship with my gf (30F) who just moved in with me after being long distance for the last year. Prior to this we have met in person once a month taking turns flying to see each other. We had sex most of our trips whenever we could to make the most of our time.
In the beginning, I couldn't finish at all. We had some luck after a few months, but it was still difficult to be consistent. We thought it would clear up when we were together full time, but, after being together for two months and trying, it hasn't.
We haven't attempted sex for the last week and a half. Stress and anxiety from holidays, work, and travel hasn't helped. We did try a blow job after a flirty exchange.
Normally, I have a dull sensation with sex. The DE, porn addiction, and poor masturbation technique have done considerable harm to my sensitivity. Since we hadn't tried anything, I was more sensitive than normal and she took advantage.
It felt very good, but I felt a sense of panic take over. My lip and hands started to tingle which has only happened to me a couple of times before in my life.
My struggle is I want to be able to enjoy sex. Physically I am numb and mentally I am too anxious to even try to be sexual.
I love girlfriend and I want to make this better for us. In every other way we are successful and happy.
If anyone has had a similar experience, I'd love your thoughts. I am at my wits end here.