Hi Reddit, I (33f) have recently started to date a guy (30m) and we have been taking things very slow and steady. We haven’t had sex yet but there’s been lots of build up to it. Tonight we were FaceTiming and he kind of warned me that he has had a hard time getting hard in the past with previous partners. He dated a girl for 4ish months before me and said they only had sex twice because he couldn’t get hard. Before her, he was in a 10 year marriage where I think they had lots of successful sex.
His wife did cheat on him, and he thinks that insecurity and embarrassment plays a big role in this.
Might be a silly question, but I really like this guy and want to keep exploring things with him. What can I do to help? Aside from the obvious of never making him feel bad, etc. Would really appreciate any words of advice as this is something I’ve never dealt with before with partners.