TL;DR: I don't ever want to see these people again but my husband wants them in his life and in our baby's life.
We have family members that caused us a ton of grief while our baby was in the hospital. They made it all about themselves, were very emotional and caused us a lot of grief during an already tough time. They constantly called us, demanded updates, screaming at us through the phone, would show up unannounced and push for us to see them when we were busy and exhausted.
We set boundaries and they broke them continuously. I tried to have a heart to heart with them explaining our baby's medical conditions and how challenging it was and how it was a delicate situation as a last ditch effort thinking they could perhaps understand they were sympathetic to my face and then later tried to say I had mental health issues for being "too concerned about our child"
Our baby was in the hospital because she came 3 months early due to placental abruption, I had an emergency c section and we stayed at the Ronald McDonald House for 80 days.
I don't want these people in our lives anymore they have shown me who they really are, they are weirdly possessive of our baby and make me feel so uncomfortable, even getting tattoos of our daughters name and they are overall extremely selfish. They would put their emotional needs over the health and safety of our baby.
I want nothing more than to never see them again. My husband however still wants them around and wants them in our child's life. He said he would take our baby and go see them without me then if that's the case, I don't feel comfortable with that at all and now I feel totally forced to have these people in my life.
We both agreed to no unsupervised visits, but yeah honestly I wish I didn't ever have to see or hear from or about them ever again. I honestly feel upset anytime something about them comes up.
How do I cope with this?