This is for the people who KNOW they’ve allowed their spouse get away with too much.
You know there are plenty times you should have ended the relationship… but you didn’t. Actually, you didn’t even say anything about what hurt you so bad.
I know the feeling. Prior to becoming my wife, she tried to have a fling with her ex, called me a b*tch in front of her family, and constantly was just mean and nasty to me for no reason (and many more things).
And somehow I apologized (You know that’s you too).
Mind you, I was very successful by the world’s standards. Making a few hundred grand per year at the age of 23. Nice condo. Fit guy. And a cool dog lol.
But I was still the insecure fat kid on the inside.
We then got married. Not because I wanted to, but because I felt pressured. She threatened to end her life if I didn’t propose. So I did.
Why am I telling you all of this? Because some of have heard, “if it’s that bad then leave… grow a pair and tell her the truth… you’re too nice..”
In theory, all of that is correct. But what if you know that you should do these things but literally can’t? People don’t understand that for insecure people, we can’t just turn on the “confident button“ and stand up for ourselves… it literally feels as impossible as breathing underwater with no scuba gear.
So now you’re in a marriage and feel stuck.
But more importantly you constantly think to yourself how different your life would have been if you held true to yourself. You think, “Why couldn’t I just stand up for me!?!?!” But then you begin to justify it. You say, “I would never have these kids if it wasn’t for him/her.” even though that’s true, deep down you still know you that’s there’s better for YOU!
I’m about to change your life.
After studying personal development and mindset/psychology every day for the past 15 years, I read over and over again that the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Also, the subconscious mind only lives in the now. There is no past present or future.
I can prove this to you right now. Think of a time where your partner absolutely humiliated you. You will begin feeling the feelings as if it’s happening right now.
Typically, the past brings us down (except for Nostalgia …. That’s another lesson). But, I realized “if the past can bring me down, then the past can bring me up as well.” So I’ve developed what I call “subconscious time traveling.”
Here’s what I want you to do. Whenever you have some time with no distractions (preferably before bed or as soon as you wake up in the morning), think about the times where you knew you should’ve stood up to your partner and for yourself.
In your mind, rewrite the scene (literally change history). In your imagination, say the things you wish you would’ve said, and feel the pride of standing on business in a calm, respectful, but confident and demanding way.
You will begin to feel as if these things actually happened. And here’s the crazy part, the more you do this the more you will naturally begin standing up for yourself in REAL LIFE without even thinking.
THIS IS THE KEY!
Too often, you’ve been trying to FORCE yourself stand up for yourself. That ain’t how it works for people like us. You have to program yourself to do it automatically. This is the greatest news ever because now you don’t have to force anything.
Today, I implore you to begin rewriting history. And we all know that if you change something in the past, the present must change.
Stop trying to change the present to make up for the past.
Change the past to remake the present.
Life is Easy,
-Dotcom