Question for the women of the group.
I really like her. It’s probably going to be the first of many and I though it would be cute if we took a selfie and if we date long term or get married some day I could use that photo for cute grand gestures or just something for us to look back on. So to the Question part, is this cute or creepy. If it’s creepy I want nothing to do with it. I just think it could be sweet.

EDIT-Thank you all so far for the advice. I’m not going to ask I’ll let her ask or if it went super good at the end of it I’ll ask. But to clarify, I’m not fantasizing about marriage or anything like that, I just thought it would be something cool to have if that ever did happen. I only go on dates with people I see as potential marriage material. So this question could apply to any future first dates. I was just asking before this specific one


17 comments

  1. Taking a picture together is not inherently weird.

    It’s a *little* weird to plan like this before the first date, and you don’t need to be a woman to tell you that.

    Just relax and enjoy your date, dude.

  2. Bro, slow your roll… it’s only the first date. Take a step back, relax, and enjoy her company by getting to know her and not fantasizing about marriage with her already. I don’t take pictures with them until the 3rd or 4th date, once we’ve established what we’re looking for and our goals and values aligns

  3. LOL

    You aren’t only counting your chickens before they hatch you’re building the damn coop.

    Don’t ask for a selfie on a first date if you want a second one.

  4. I think if you guys really have a good time and there’s lots of laughing then at the end I’d say oh do you wanna take a selfie and see how she reacts, if she’s into you, she’ll say yes and think it’s cute! I definitely would ask towards the end

  5. When you plan that far ahead you remove yourself from the moment, so yeah, if you get to committed to getting a first date photo you run the risk of chasing people off.

    If it comes up organically, fine, not inherently weird, but no guarantee that the relationship will last

    Most people do not have photographic documentation of the moment they met and many have great relationships

  6. Not a woman – but here’s the deal. Anything forced comes off poorly.

    Go on the date and see how it goes. If things are going well she won’t mind a selfie. But if you do it minutes into the date – she might get a restraining order.

    Enjoy the meeting, stop planning the names of your future kids, and just take the time to get to know each other.

  8. I wouldn’t see a guy again if he wanted a selfie for the first date lol it’s a cute idea though! If you met her online, save your conversations for that reason 🙂

  9. The most important thing is to take it slow and ask questions regarding values and qualities that are important to you in a partner to see if they are shared. It’s less about this being your dream partner even before you meet this girl and more about what you are looking for in a partner long term. Take off the rose coloured glasses and just be your authentic self, be kind, try new things and hopefully this will lead to more dates for both of you.

  11. Be in the present moment OP don’t think too far in the future take it one step at a time

  12. No picture on the first date but you can always keep a small momento like a receipt or something. I think this kind of forethought and consideration is valuable in a partner. It means you are thoughtful and I don’t think we need less men in the world like this so let’s not shut it completely down. Just try not to come off too invested too soon since this trait can come off that way to people when first dating.

  14. Let this happen organically, my gf and I have a pic from our first date but neither of us forced it

  15. She’s gonna smell the desperation on the way over to you, there won’t be a 2nd date lmao

  16. Just have a fun time. It’s New Year’s Eve. You got a first date. Congratulations. That’s all she signed up for. This is your chance to see if YOU even want to go on a second date. That’s all. yes it’s exciting. You need to calm down. It may seem like you are gonna get married. That’s putting the cart so far before the horse you can’t see the horse anymore because it’s over the horizon. Have fun. Enjoy the moment. Don’t expect anything else. If it happens, excellent. If not. No hard feelings. Some people click and others don’t. It’s just the luck of the draw.

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