Following up from my last post. Married for 1 year, recent anniversary on 11th December
After our last fight got sorted, I came back to my parents’ home. Spent around 13k on flight tickets. Things were okay after that, normal even, until a few days ago.
Out of nowhere, my husband completely shut down.
We spoke normally around 20–30 minutes before. Everything was fine. I told him it was Maghrib time and I’d call after prayer. He said okay.
I called back after prayer and suddenly he was a different person. Cold tone. Mean replies. Emotionally distant. I genuinely don’t know what changed in those few minutes.
I assumed maybe he was tired, so I called again 1–2 hours later. Same behaviour. Video call, but he couldn’t even look at me. Later at night, I tried again. Still cold.
Next day, he didn’t text or call. I did. Same short replies: “Hi”, “Ok”, “How are you”, “Alhamdulillah”, “Ok bye”.
This pattern has been repeating on and off for the last one year.
There’s no job stress, no financial pressure, no visible issue that I know of. I keep asking him directly if something is wrong. He says nothing.
On the third day, I decided to give space. I waited till 5 pm, hoping he’d text or call. Nothing. So I reached out again. He seemed completely uninterested in me.
Is asking for one call or one simple salam text a day too much?
I give space. I try communication. I talk about my day. I ask if he’s okay. There’s no response emotionally.
This morning, I snapped and confronted him. I regret it now because I know he’ll probably stop talking to me for weeks.
He said, “Koi haqooq nahi hain jo poore na kiye ho.”
I said love, affection, and communication are also part of a marriage.
I asked him clearly, if you don’t want to talk, say it. If you want space for a month, say it. I’ll respect it. But the silence hurts.
He said it was namaz time (Friday) and left the call.
My return ticket is on 5th February. I already know he won’t call or text now unless I do.
I’m very attached to him. I love him deeply. I try distracting myself with movies, but it doesn’t help much. I don’t really have close friends either.
I speak to my in-laws 2–3 times a day. His brother even checks in sometimes. But my own husband doesn’t.
I feel trapped. Helpless.
Emotionally exhausted. And still, I know I’ll be the one to call again later.i ask Allah in prayers to put love in his heart for me .
Men or women who’ve experienced this,
What is this behaviour?
What should I do next?