let’s call her Fiona 24f and my other friend Peter 23M. Fiona and Peter were both my close friends.
I introduced them to each other this year. I could sense something was brewing between them and I stayed out of it. They ended up becoming a situationship together. The whole time, I asked the two of them to not talk about it with me because of my own attachment issues, but also because they’re still my friends, and I think I was trying to protect myself for the future. Because I heard that they both had different non negotiables.
From what I gathered, Peter and Fiona continued even when they knew this. This is where Fiona and Peter both came to me for advice, in which I told Peter to find self control and stop this relationship, and I told Fiona she deserves more and also needs to find self control. Then one day, Fiona ended the situationship and cut off contact.
Am I stubborn for staying friends with them both? They were both equally close friends of mine. I stayed out of the situation mostly while it was happening too. I’m trying to find advice in what I should be doing if not being stubborn that this was their issue, not mine. These were non negotiables that caused the downfall, not cheating or abuse or any life altering situation is why Im still friends with them both.