This Christmas was a rough one for sure. I don’t have anyone in my life I can talk about this to.
I (35f) and my husband (36m) have been together 15 years and married 4.
Every Christmas and birthday I make sure mine and my husband’s niece and nephews have gifts from us. He has no idea what “we” even get them despite my telling him multiple times. This Christmas was no different. On top of gifts for all the kids in our life, my family and my teammates at work, I also got hubby a few gifts, and got the dog gifts to open this morning. (We are DINKs)
Husband says this morning “oh. Well now I feel like crap! I didn’t know we were getting each other gifts. I didn’t get you anything.”
But he got his “work besties” each two gifts, made a gag gift for one of work besties’ kids, and wanted to buy one of our mutual friends a PS5 because “she only has a PS4 and it’s crapping out”.
So he logs on his computer and sends me a $50 steam gift card and shouts “THERE YOU GO!”
All day I fought back tears because I was an afterthought to everyone except my parents (who opt to just send me money because I live so far away) and my teammates at work.
When I bring up how I would like to use that money from my parents for a new ear piercing or a deposit for a tattoo I’ve been saving for he says, “You should use that towards the down payment for your new car when it arrives.” I already have a substantial down payment on hand….
I just wanted to feel like a priority to him for once. For him to see something and go “man, she would really like this.”
Part of me wonders why I stay, and part of me hopes he’ll get his act together and finally grow up and be a solid partner.