Hi
I haven't posted here before but have been a long term lurker.
This particular issue has been a thorn in my side for a while and it went to a head tonight.
Any advice would be appreciated as I'm not sure if I'm being fair or a b***h in the moment. 39F married to 41M for 21 years.
So we seem to have an issue with my husband being displeased when I pause a movie to deal with household stuff. Whether it is the kids, dogs or dinner he gets angry when I pause the movie or show.
It's hard as my husband works night shift so we only get the 3pm-8pm together(SAHM) and its always around 5pm we watch a movie together. If I need to get up and deal with the dogs (GSD so both are demanding for attention and one is a 5mth old puppy) the 4 kids or while cooking dinner he gets mad if I want to pause. I feel resentful as he won't help either in those moments. He's happy if he's lost in his world but I'm becoming more resentful as I don't want to constantly rewatch movies or episodes to catch up as he doesn't fill me in either.
I miss so many important dialogues and if its a big dinner or issue I need to deal with, I become completely disconnected from the movies story that I can't get into whatever we are watching and the rest of the time is me feeling bored and uninterested.
It's even more frustrating when it's a movie/show I have wanted to see and my husband has no interest in. He suddenly becomes engrossed and I'm not feeling it because I've missed too much..
I've spoke to him about it but nothing comes about. He might pause for a while but then he's engrossed and feels annoyed that I'm disturbing him yet again.
I get he's trying to enjoy his down time, I'm trying to enjoy that downtime with him but my job at home is 24/7 so I would assume he would be lenient towards me too. I always pause the movie if he goes off somewhere. He'll either say yes pause or just play it. I also tell him keep playing if I'm not leaving for long. But if I mention pause or I pause it myself, he gets angry.
Any of your ideas or opinions would be appreciated. It's driving me crazy and not in a good way.