My husband’s cleaning requirements are starting to get to me and I don’t know what’s normal or ridiculous on his part so looking for some insight. We only have sex if we’ve recently showered which yeah obviously it’s better when we’re clean but it makes me feel like sex isn’t spontaneous when I’m turned on its like great now have to wait 1/2 hr while he showers. It also makes me feel like I even when I suggest or initiate sex I’m turned down because neither of us are “clean” . He will not have sex even if it’s me giving him Oral or hand job if he has used the toilet or if he hasn’t showered recently. We’ve never had morning sex. He will not have sex if either of us has gone #2. Like if I initiate he will ask if I’ve gone to the bathroom or showered. He acts like I have a smell even when I’m freshly showered so he won’t do oral on me. This hurts my feelings but I’m clean, I have a normal human skin smell. I’ve gotten checked out and even smelled myself so I know it’s not that. He doesn’t want to anal because even when it’s me asking for it because he think it’s “gross” It’s driving me crazy because obviously everyone would love to clean all the time but humans sweat smell and aren’t perfectly clean. I think it’s normal to expect sounds, smells, closeness to another body and I think that’s perfectly normal. I think sex should be enjoyed in the moment as long as two people want it but him and his cleaning rules are making me feel so unwanted and like something’s wrong with me. We’ve been together for years so I haven’t been with anyone else but with any partners before them I didn’t remember them caring about that.