I often flirt with my wife through compliments, affection, and initiating intimacy. Many times she tells me to go away or "fuck off", so I back off. This happens repeatedly over weeks, and eventually I stop initiating.
When I stop, she becomes upset, asks why I’m not flirting anymore, accuses me of cheating, and calls me names. To calm things down, I start flirting again only to be told "fuck off" again.
Even when she says she wants to be intimate, she’ll stay downstairs and say she’ll be up in an hour, which turns into repeated delays until I eventually go to sleep.
It feels like a lose-lose situation, if I initiate, I’m rejected, if I don’t, I’m accused of not caring or being unfaithful.
How is someone supposed to handle this without feeling confused or rejected?