Hi, I got married earlier this year and have lived with my now husband for almost 4 years (together for 7).
I was preparing for exams trying to forge a new career path. Still am. For that, I left my job and continued to pay my half using my savings. My husband has always been supportive. He is a great guy. He genuinely does a lot.
But, in this past half year especially, he has become more detached and aggressive. PLease note, he is not violent or mean. He just keeps getting angry and talks to me rudely. I do have my own faults and i understand disagreements, arguments and fights that happen between couples, I get it. We have had fights, a lot of them. But off late, it is all that exists. A rude remark and then hours of silence.
The past month has been one of the toughest for me, I have been highly depressed. I am generally resilient, as soon as i face a failure, i get up in a few hours and start working on the next thing. But his last month, I have been breaking down from inside and have been in a really bad state due to my life (career, studies). He too has been highly depressed in the past, and I have tried explaining my current state to him. But I don't think he gets it.
A comment of his that stuck with me and that hurt me was "You are never fine".
Maybe it is me being sensitive, but I have been feeling this way for almost a year now.
Further, he doesn't seem to care to spend any time with me. I ask him anything at all that he would like to do to spend time together, I am really good with anything. But there is no invitation from his side. Even things we used to do together, we do very rarely.
He talks to his friends with much more enjoyment than with me.
I know that a lot of you may think that I should have my own life too. And I do. But, I cannot explain how much the loneliness has taken over. I feel so lonely in this house.
My husband was always my best friends, my partner in crime. We have gone through some really tough times together.
I have tried talking to him but it doesn't really lead anywhere.
Maybe it is me being sensitive, people have told me that I am overly sensitive.
I don't know.
I just feel really down you know. It's like anyway everything in life was crumbling down, and the only thing left, my marriage, also seems to be crumbling.
Please know, i have done everything I could from my side. I try to talk to him, I try to take interests in his passions, I invite him to activities that I am doing, anything and everything that I can think of with no ego.
Is there anyone who may have gone through this themselves? or something similar? Talking to a community really helps. I can't really talk to anyone about this.