My husband and i have a pretty simple life. we work we live within our mean, and we are doing okay. Nothing flashy just stable but my sister married someone who is more financially well off and they are always off on luxury vacations posting hotel photos the whole thing. and every time that happens it triggers something in my husband. he gets jealous not just of their lifestyle but of the fact that our kids might see it and start comparing. his argument is always that it’s bad for the kids but honestly it feels more like it is hitting his self esteem. It usually spirals into a fight and it become a bit of a cycle. I brought it up during one of my sessions i amusing it solo for now highly recommend it if your partner is not ready to go to therapy yet . my therapist helped me see how these reactions are more about unresolved insecurities than the actual situation. we been unpacking that slowly and i am realizing how much outside comparisons mess with our peace.
I guess i am wondering how do you handle this kind of thing in your own relationship? Do you avoid talking about your siblings’ success, do you shield your kids from it or do you just learn to accept that some feelings will always be there?
Would love to hear how others have dealt with this, It is messy but real