My wife and I were talking after sex and I had a revelation about our arousals that I am wondering if it’s the same for other biological males/females, or specific to us, and if ppl have other metaphors/analogies.
I realized my arousal (M) stays at the same constant high edge for a long time. It’s like a cup with tiny holes, leaking very slowly. If you flood it, it will overflow and climax very quickly. You can bring it to the edge and wait a little, but if only a few seconds, the level has not lowered much.
My wife is opposite. Her arousal (F) needs constant escalation to reach climax. It is more like a cup with a gaping hole. If you stop filling it then it will empty quickly. To reach that edge again will take a long time, almost like starting over the second you stop. Stay constant and she reaches climax.
So my question is, is it just us and our individual unique biologies? Maybe one or both of us have a “problem” with our arousal levels/needs? Or is it the same for every other guy and lady?