I'm just making this post out of curiosity. I am 27F and I primarily have sex with cis men. I have noticed that in the past year, all of the men I have hooked up with have gone down on me without me having to ask first.
This is interesting to me, because in previous years, I would need to ask (it's the only way I can get off). I didn't like asking, though, because it made me feel demanding, leading to an orgasm gap.
I wonder if this could indicate some kind of shift in attitudes toward giving oral sex to people with vulvas. There are some other factors I'm thinking about (maybe it's because I'm having sex with older and more experienced men, maybe I'm choosing a different social demographic of men, maybe it's where I'm located), but I'm wondering if more men are becoming aware of the importance of oral sex in closing the orgasm gap. Thoughts?